Detailed Intentions for Clear Communication
Think about your business relationships. You want to feel respected, seen, and heard, and you want others to feel the same way. But let's get specific—what does respect look like to you? Is it being punctual, actively listening, or acknowledging contributions? Define what being seen and heard means for you. Is it receiving constructive feedback, having your ideas taken seriously, or being part of decision-making processes?
When you switch from vague to detailed requests, you give others a clear understanding of your needs. For example, instead of saying, "I want to share my idea," you could say, "I have an idea that I'd like to discuss collaboratively with the team." This specificity invites others to engage with you in the way you desire.
Reflecting Intentions in Body Language
Your body language is an incredibly powerful tool that communicates your energy and intentions without you saying a word. It's not just about what you say; it's how you present yourself that can make a profound difference. Your posture, eye contact, and gestures all play pivotal roles in shaping how others perceive and engage with you.
Consider the impact of standing tall, with your shoulders back and head held high. This posture exudes confidence and readiness, signaling to others that you are someone worth listening to. When you make eye contact, you establish a connection that shows you're engaged and trustworthy. It creates a bridge of mutual respect and understanding, making others more likely to value your contributions.
Now, let's talk about gestures. Open, welcoming gestures—like a slight nod or an open palm—invite others into the conversation, making them feel more comfortable and willing to engage. On the other hand, crossed arms or avoiding eye contact can create barriers, signaling disinterest or defensiveness.
Imagine approaching your manager with an idea you're passionate about. If you walk in with slumped shoulders and avoid eye contact, it's unlikely they'll take your idea seriously. But if you approach with confidence, make direct eye contact, and present your idea clearly and enthusiastically, you're giving them permission to listen and engage with you fully.
Practical Tips:
Practice Your Posture: Stand or sit up straight, with your shoulders back and head held high. This will not only make you appear more confident but also help you feel more confident.
Maintain Eye Contact: Aim to make eye contact during your conversations. It shows that you're engaged and paying attention.
Use Open Gestures: Avoid closed-off body language like crossed arms. Instead, use open gestures to create a welcoming atmosphere.
Smile: A genuine smile can go a long way in making you appear approachable and friendly.
By being mindful of your body language, you can project confidence and clarity, making it easier for others to engage with you in the way you desire. Remember, your presence is the permission you give others to listen to and respect you. So, step into your conversations with intention and watch how it transforms your interactions.
Taking Action: Permission and Engagement
Here's the crux: Being conceptual with what you want does not give permission. You must first get clear on your intentions in detail. When you have a clear vision, consider what actions you need to take to put it into play. Waiting for a reaction means you're already too late. Be proactive and give permission for engagement.
Remember, while you can give permission for others to engage with you, they also need to decide to be a part of it. By stepping into conversations with confidence and openness, even with the risk of being wrong, you create a genuine space for collaboration and growth.
Conclusion
Embrace the mantra of "what you reflect on is what is reflected back to you."
Be intentional with your energy, get specific with your intentions, and communicate them clearly. By doing so, you create a dynamic presence that invites meaningful engagement and respect from others.
Be intentional with your energy, get specific with your intentions, and communicate them clearly. By doing so, you create a dynamic presence that invites meaningful engagement and respect from others.
Let’s put this into practice and watch how the world reflects back the energy and intentions you put out!
Kerstin Oleta
Nation's Leading Body Language Strategist,
International Keynote Speaker & Fortune 500 Executive Trainer, CEO of the Business Leadership Excellence Institute
With over 30 years of training and performing in theater and opera, Kerstin Oleta has acquired an in-depth knowledge of all levels of communication. Kerstin brings her unique skills, talents, and understanding of non-verbal communication to life. Kerstin is the CEO and Founder of The Business Leadership Excellence Institute - a training system for learning to communicate leadership and executive presence through enhanced body language, and leadership and team management skills.
Kerstin’s works with international speakers, bestselling authors, real estate professionals, lawyers, and business executives in Fortune 500 companies. She speaks and trains nationally on Body Language Strategy and Executive Management for Business and has performed keynote speeches and workshops for organizations such as Google, eBay Global, National Women's Council of Realtors, and Amazon.
Unlock the secrets of powerful communication and executive presence with Kerstin Oleta. Connect with Kerstin Oleta today and start your journey towards mastering body language and executive presence.
Unlock the secrets of powerful communication and executive presence with Kerstin Oleta. Connect with Kerstin Oleta today and start your journey towards mastering body language and executive presence.
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